It is very easy to generalize characteristics about genders. We just assume the boys and girls we meet, to be a part of the particular stereotype that we have always thought they would follow. A lot of people hate that. I myself feel very proud of breaking certain stereotypes when it comes to family, customs, education, etc. The other day at a house party, a girl told me that she loved talking to me, and felt proud that I was doing something different than what girls are normally supposed to be pursuing for their careers. She was happy that I had taken the path less traveled. There are TWO female engineers in my entire company. A lot of people who know me say that I am a very girly girl, and doing a Masters in Thermal and Fluid Sciences is pretty bad ass for me. Heck, a lot of people did not even think that MS would be a good idea for me. My college roommate and a very close friend had told me, not in the nicest way, that she just doesn’t see me going into the technical side. This was 6 years back. How I have loved breaking perceptions!
My parents break certain stereotypes every day. They married when my father and mother were 35 and 28 respectively. They had me and decided that was it. An only girl, was very rare for those times. My education was always the most important goal for them and they have supported and encouraged me to give my best throughout. My mother tends to fall into the vicious cycle of comparisons and disappointments, but my father stands strong for me. My marriage is not the most burning issue in our lives, but my emotional, physical and financial stability is. That is how it should be. You have read about my fatherβs views in the Guest Post he had written for my blog.
I came across this new matrimonial site called trulymadly.com which made me think a bit.
But, just for kicks, I want to think about how stereotypes can exist and pretty vividly. I have many signs to show that I am an only child. I have so many symptoms of a kid who got bullied in school. I have most of the characteristics of being a GIRL! So, I want to list down some of the stereotypes that I fulfill, of being a girl, or a Desi at heart, or a new graduate in her twenties.
- I love the color pink.
- I love new and pretty clothes.
- I want to be a part of the corporate rat race and do well.
- I was a part of the class rat race, and did alright at the end.
- I am an βNRIβ and I do like USA, India, heck, all countries. I have become more patriotic and vocal about India, after coming here.
- I have fat glasses, and I do watch a ton of TV and read a lot. So according to all aunties, that is the reason I have glasses.
- I was never athletic. I am the girly, arty, poetic, music and dance kinds.
- Every time I come back from India, I get two bags full of nashta and spices.
- Every time I go and visit home in India, I take tons of lotions and perfumes. π
- I flirt. Quite a bit. Twirling my hair, batting my eyelids and all that. Well, depends on the audience.
- I cry when I see anything cute. Like, YouTube videos of puppies and kittens. Not babies. I cry during most movies.
- I bitch and gossip.
- I am a freebie and sale lover.
- I am very touristy, along with loving traveling.
- I am mortally afraid of creepy crawlies.
It is fun to read about a girly-girl, who is not afraid of owning herself for what she is. That is good by any standard. Stereotypes are there to be brought down every once in a while- just like governments and diapers π
It is heartening to know about your parents actually. The only decisions that matter in long run are marriage and career, and from the look of things you have been rather lucky as far as those go. Normally, Indian parents have an unhealthy involvement in their child’s professional and sex lives ( read separately π ). You should be proud…
Out of the 13 points, I think a lot of them are gender neutral ( except of course the pink and new clothes thing- beyond my limits π ). Or maybe, because I am with you on most- I trying to buck the trend π Not sure, but either way: its good!
Trulymadly. LOL!
PS- Had some courses in flumech back in college, but I think chemineers had those heat and mass transfer courses more than us. CFD mein toh F bhi laga tha but Advanced CFD mein ikka tha π
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Thank you thank you! Well, i cant not accept something that i so blatant about me. Stereotype or not. Right? I agree that my parents really do display the maturity expected of their age and experience. I am so glad.
Some points are characteristics of Desis that we display. Hehe.
Waah, you aced CFD? That’s what I do for a living!
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Maturity is not a f(age,experience) π Difficult to accept for most π
Arre I flunked CFD ka beginner course. Aced the advanced waala- dil pe le lia fukke ko π Remember that question in end semester exam which read something like why is central differencing scheme better than forward or backward differencing. I gave some stupid mathematical proof with a little bit of personal touch: that just as in life we must consider both our past as well as potential for future for better results, than either… π π π In retrospect, F seems justified. Aisi baatein karega koi toh aur kya milega usse π π
CFD for job is cool! BTP waala professor was a world authority in CFD, so kafi experience hai π¦ Genius but crazy. You be careful π
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Hahaha! Your paper checker must have had either crazy laughter or insane anger. Looking at the F, i go for the latter. π
I am still learning the ropes of CFD through my projects. It is fun. I have a long way to go though.
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Haha… I have kept that graded paper as proof since then. Remarks was ” genius” with F on grade sheet. Sarcastic compliment π
Am sure you will do very well. Bas don’t start living in those calculations π All the very best.
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Thank you, Tatsatji. π
Engg papers were fun. Either dreamy or horror stories. But there was a story behind each. π
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Sure was fun. Crazy college stories. I bet we all had our share. OR wait… I had padosi ka share waala fun as well
PS- Please don’t lose the thick glasses for lenses. Major turn on for most of guys. Would help in boy hunting π
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I have to wear lenses. My number is very very high. So contacts give better correction and helps against retinal degeneration. I resisted till my doctor sat me down and explained it to me. I wear non-numbered black framed glasses at work when I want to look all serious and nerdy chic :D. They are for computer use actually with anti glare coating and stuff.
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π¦ π¦ π¦ Maybe you can improve your sight a bit and then wear specs π Just the right amount…
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π errr, sure….
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What! come on π You should do this to maintain your hot-versus-nerdy-looks ratio π
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Haha! I guess lasik will reduce my number but not get rid of it. So, yup!
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*Relieved*
Don’t get too…better π
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*blush blush*
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Even I started wearing them after the doc made me realize that you have to do this if you want to stabilize your number.
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Exactly. Its a pain in the butt though.
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Haha, Tatsat I know what she means when says thick glasses, I have too. we CANNOT wear glasses publicly, our eyes are not visible then. We have to wear lenses. π
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Hehe. True. Cant even get cute frames. No point with the fat glass.
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Come on! You people don’t understand guys then π
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Who says that we switch from glasses to contacts to glasses for guys? We do it for us, n other girls. π
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You girls are ganging up on me π
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I am sure you don’t understand how our glasses look π
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Haha π
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You make us feel proud. Stay this way, hats off
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Awww! Thank you very much. π
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I did go through that site…trulymadly.com it’s all over fb. And i like that there is a new approach to the matrimonial thing too! π About breaking stereotypes, I always feel, it’s awesome to be one of a kind! π
That seems to be a nice list.. and I could tick a few of them off too π
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It is all over FB. It is doing some brilliant advertisement. It is india’s answer to okcupid.com i feel.
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wow! I don’t know how to put it, but I loved it. so insanely honest! π btw, a lot of points match with me except maybe 5 (because I’m not an NRI :P) and 10, and a few more but heck, I can relate to a lot of them!
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I think its a Desi thing! π and a girl thing!
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I want to say something, but don’t know what to.
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Hain?? Errr, its okay!
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It was soooooo much fun reading this again π Have a wonderful stay and journey to India and back PB!
PS: I think I don’t want to be a part of the corporate race, I want to do something else but at the same time, I should get to wear amazing formal clothes π
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Thanks Srishty!
I like the whole office setup. I may be in a crowd, but i like what i do. And i think thats the most important thing.
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