It is very easy to generalize characteristics about genders. We just assume the boys and girls we meet, to be a part of the particular stereotype that we have always thought they would follow. A lot of people hate that. I myself feel very proud of breaking certain stereotypes when it comes to family, customs, education, etc. The other day at a house party, a girl told me that she loved talking to me, and felt proud that I was doing something different than what girls are normally supposed to be pursuing for their careers. She was happy that I had taken the path less traveled. There are TWO female engineers in my entire company. A lot of people who know me say that I am a very girly girl, and doing a Masters in Thermal and Fluid Sciences is pretty bad ass for me. Heck, a lot of people did not even think that MS would be a good idea for me. My college roommate and a very close friend had told me, not in the nicest way, that she just doesn’t see me going into the technical side. This was 6 years back. How I have loved breaking perceptions!
My parents break certain stereotypes every day. They married when my father and mother were 35 and 28 respectively. They had me and decided that was it. An only girl, was very rare for those times. My education was always the most important goal for them and they have supported and encouraged me to give my best throughout. My mother tends to fall into the vicious cycle of comparisons and disappointments, but my father stands strong for me. My marriage is not the most burning issue in our lives, but my emotional, physical and financial stability is. That is how it should be. You have read about my father’s views in the Guest Post he had written for my blog.
I came across this new matrimonial site called trulymadly.com which made me think a bit.
But, just for kicks, I want to think about how stereotypes can exist and pretty vividly. I have many signs to show that I am an only child. I have so many symptoms of a kid who got bullied in school. I have most of the characteristics of being a GIRL! So, I want to list down some of the stereotypes that I fulfill, of being a girl, or a Desi at heart, or a new graduate in her twenties.
- I love the color pink.
- I love new and pretty clothes.
- I want to be a part of the corporate rat race and do well.
- I was a part of the class rat race, and did alright at the end.
- I am an ‘NRI’ and I do like USA, India, heck, all countries. I have become more patriotic and vocal about India, after coming here.
- I have fat glasses, and I do watch a ton of TV and read a lot. So according to all aunties, that is the reason I have glasses.
- I was never athletic. I am the girly, arty, poetic, music and dance kinds.
- Every time I come back from India, I get two bags full of nashta and spices.
- Every time I go and visit home in India, I take tons of lotions and perfumes. 😀
- I flirt. Quite a bit. Twirling my hair, batting my eyelids and all that. Well, depends on the audience.
- I cry when I see anything cute. Like, YouTube videos of puppies and kittens. Not babies. I cry during most movies.
- I bitch and gossip.
- I am a freebie and sale lover.
- I am very touristy, along with loving traveling.
- I am mortally afraid of creepy crawlies.